Marriage and dating for christians

02 Feb

If this is the case, please check out this article, which addresses why that’s probably the wrong move. In fact, during that season I often had nightmares that I had married the “wrong guy” and was stuck for life!

It was a long time ago, but I can remember being in the doldrums with my husband before we got married. Some women say, “I just knew he was the one.” Honestly, I didn’t feel that way until Mike became “the one” the moment I said “I do.” As an adult woman, a stagnant dating relationship is also not healthy.

Can you really see yourself spending the rest of your life with him? Many couples in this situation stay in the doldrums refusing to move forward or call it quits. But he was nothing like the guy I thought I would marry.

You might even have decided to move in together as a quasi-commitment that seems to buy you some time. I had concerns about how different our backgrounds and personalities were, and I was terrified of making a mistake.

This issue shapes our young people, friends, and family more than we could ever imagine. “Let’s just sit back and see what happens” might work in certain scenarios, but Christian dating isn’t one of them. I hope and pray these words spark conversations in your ministries, relationships, and homes. If you need to take a minute to let that sink in, I will be here when you get back… Here’s the deal: marriage isn’t a divine lottery where every person has one winning ticket. Hopefully one will end up as my spouse.” Not a good idea. So, the default for years is to leave as soon as a flaw arises. This requires discipline, restraint, and abstinence from activities that don’t promote holiness. A pure mind might be the greatest gift you can give your future spouse. ____________________ I hope this discussion continues. I pray parents, church leaders, friends, and family begin to spark conversations about God’s design for dating.

Most importantly, guidelines and principles for dating will transform lives and shape eternities. The brokenness you see in yourself and the brokenness you experience from your spouse point both of you to the only perfect one, God. When you pull the trigger, these balls spread over a large range, increasing the chance you hit the target.

A wise man once told me that there were only two outcomes for dating relationships: getting married or breaking up.

“The secret,” he said, “is knowing how to handle a dating relationship so you know if the other person is worth marrying or he or she is honored in the breakup.” Unfortunately, it seems like many young singles struggle to figure out just how to handle dating–and I’m not the only one who’s noticed how weird the Christian dating scene can be.

The trajectory of lives and eternities are in the balance. Laying out guidelines for dating as followers of Jesus will alter lives by keeping people out of toxic and unhealthy relationships (and ultimately marriages). “The one” says you need to find the perfect person. The beauty of marriage is God sustains you despite your flaws. The shells of a shotgun are stuffed with tiny round balls. You are asked to go from a mentality that says “End a relationship as soon as difficulty arises,” to one that says, “Don’t end the relationship regardless of the difficulty that arises.” That’s a tough switch to flip.

With us, you can rest easy knowing you are dealing with church going Christians who know their Psalms.

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Many serious dating relationships face a stage that I’ll call the “doldrums.” The definition of the doldrums is, “a state or period of inactivity and stagnation." You’ve been dating for maybe a year or more.

You like each other, but you’re not quite sure where you’re heading as a couple.